Releasing the Pattern of Working Hard

You know that feeling when you're sick and tired of being sick and tired?

When you're caught in the same loop, replaying the same story, trying harder, pushing harder, yet somehow ending up exactly where you started?

𝒪𝓃𝑒 𝑜𝒻 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝒻𝒾𝓇𝓈𝓉 𝓉𝑜𝑜𝓁𝓈 𝐼 𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇 𝓁𝑒𝒶𝓇𝓃𝑒𝒹 𝓉𝑜 𝒾𝓃𝓉𝑒𝓇𝓇𝓊𝓅𝓉 𝓉𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝒸𝓎𝒸𝓁𝑒 𝓌𝒶𝓈 𝒶 𝓈𝒾𝓂𝓅𝓁𝑒 𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓉𝑒𝓂𝑒𝓃𝓉 𝒻𝓇𝑜𝓂 𝐿𝑜𝓊𝒾𝓈𝑒 𝐻𝒶𝓎:

"I release the pattern in me that has created this."

Those words stayed with me.

At first, I used them to quiet the negative chatter in my mind. But over time, they became something much deeper. They helped me see the hidden stories running beneath the surface of my life.

𝚁𝚎𝚌𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢, 𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚞𝚕𝚊𝚛 𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚛𝚢 𝚑𝚊𝚜 𝚋𝚎𝚎𝚗 𝚊𝚜𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚎𝚍.

·       The belief that I must work hard to deserve success.

·       𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝒷𝑒𝓁𝒾𝑒𝒻 𝓉𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝓁𝒾𝒻𝑒 𝒽𝒶𝓈 𝓉𝑜 𝒷𝑒 𝒶 𝓈𝓉𝓇𝓊𝑔𝑔𝓁𝑒.

·       The belief that achievement only comes through sacrifice.

When I look back, I can see where it came from.

School taught it.

Church reinforced it.

Family lived it.

My dad worked hard all his life. It was simply what you did. If you wanted something, you worked harder. If you wanted more, you pushed more.

Without realising it, I inherited that belief.

Not because anyone intended to burden me with it, but because as children we absorb the stories of the people we love.

Somewhere inside me, there was still a little girl wanting to make her dad proud. Wanting to prove herself. Wanting to show that she too could work hard enough.

So I kept trying.

And trying.

And trying.

Yet no matter how much effort I put in, it often felt like I was running on a hamster wheel. I would build momentum, make progress, and then somehow find myself back at the beginning again.

The harder I pushed, the more overwhelmed I became.

The more overwhelmed I became, the more exhausted I felt.

Until eventually I had to ask myself:

What if this story isn't true?

What if the goal was never to work harder?

What if the goal was simply to create a life that feels meaningful, joyful, and aligned?

That question changed everything.

Because I realised that while I had rejected the struggle, I had also unconsciously rejected receiving.

I followed the things I loved.

I chose purpose over pressure.

But beneath that choice was another hidden belief:

"𝐼𝒻 𝐼'𝓂 𝓃𝑜𝓉 𝓌𝑜𝓇𝓀𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒽𝒶𝓇𝒹 𝑒𝓃𝑜𝓊𝑔𝒽, 𝓂𝒶𝓎𝒷𝑒 𝐼 𝒹𝑜𝓃'𝓉 𝒹𝑒𝓈𝑒𝓇𝓋𝑒 𝓈𝓊𝒸𝒸𝑒𝓈𝓈."

There it was.

The old starving artist story.

The fear that joy and abundance couldn't exist together.

The fear that ease somehow meant I wasn't doing enough.

But today, I see it differently.

Today, I recognise that this is simply a 𝓹𝓪𝓽𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓷𝓼.

And 𝓹𝓪𝓽𝓽𝓮𝓻𝓷𝓼 can be changed.

So once again, I return to the words that started it all:

I release the pattern in me that has created this.

I release the belief that success must be hard.

I release the need to prove my worth through struggle.

I release the story that I have to exhaust myself to deserve what I desire.

And in its place, I choose something new.

I choose to trust myself.

I choose to honour what brings me joy.

I choose to receive without guilt.

I choose to create success in a way that feels aligned with who I truly am.

Most of all, I choose to believe that I am worthy—not because of how hard I work, but simply because I am.

And that feels like freedom.

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